How to Gain Confidence - You Can Develop Hope

By Jordan R. Masten


There are no secrets in this world. There are only things we do no know at this point in time. And when you DO know it, it's not a secret anymore. This leads me to tell you that there is only one way to truly gain self confidence. This is by a process. You must realize that gaining confidence has almost never happened overnight. Of course there are always exceptions to everything in this world. Learning how to gain self confidence is a process and I want to tell you 7 really great tips on how to gain self confidence.Don't care what other people think. I know you may think "How am I supposed to do that?". Well the fact is that you can't change what anybody else thinks.

Imagine you are at a public gathering and you have really low self confidence at that point in time. You come home and you feel really bad because you thought you where judged by other people. Your best friend James, thought the same thing when he came home. Judith thought exactly the same thing. The point is, people care more about themselves than they care about you. So inevitably don't care what other people think of you. You are not put on this planet to please all. It's OK to fail, it's OK to be different, it's OK to do what you feel is right for you!

Picture yourself doing it, and then give it a try! It doesn't have to be something big - it can be as simple as joining a walking club.You'll find that you are more centered and happier if you do something that puts you in that flow at least once a week.It's been shown that low self-esteem develops hand-in-hand with individuals who put too much focus on themselves. You can gain confidence by doing something that focuses on someone else or even something else.You'll find that when you are in a situation where you are meeting new people, you immediately become less nervous when you focus on the person you are meeting.

Also if you get in the habit of focussing on the things you can control and not obsess about stuff that is totally out of your realm of influence, you will increase your feelings of hope.Developing hope is a habit. If you make it a habit to focus on the positives and what you can do to make things better, you will feel better about yourself and definitely more hopeful.Here are three things that you should understand in order to fight with your insecurities and gain more confidence.

You weren't born a shy person. You aren't a shy person because it has something to do with your genes. Shyness isn't a life sentence. Most people tend to think of themselves as shy people because at times they feel insecure. If you feel insecure from time to time, it doesn't mean that you are shy!Here's a simple exercise for you. Think of situations when you felt truly confident, relaxed and extroverted. Done? Now think about it. If there were so many situations when you felt you were a confident person, you can't be shy by nature. And that means that you can change yourself and become 100% confident person. Read some articles on how to gain confidence, take action and you'll get rid of your shyness!

Patience. Learning how to gain self confidence is like fishing with a fishing rod, in a way. Let me explain. have you ever tried to fish with a fishing rod and you see something happen. You reel in to see if something happened. You find the fish has broke lose. You get pissed and throw it back in the water. This happens 5-10 times before you catch anything. In the mean time your friend is pulling up the fish every single time and he is laughing of joy. He is patient... he knows that when the fish bites, it takes a little bit of time before the hook is 100% attached. The point here is that, if something doesn't work for you, throw the rod back in and try again. When you want to give up the most, you know you are the closest!

If you are stuck in a rut, your life becomes boring and predictable. It kills your spontaneity and appetite for life. You don't feel alive and that makes you feel insecure. Make some changes in your life, especially dealing with your everyday life (your job, your partner, your home etc.).If you aren't happy in your current situation, you have to change it to become vibrant once again. When you do it, you'll automatically feel more confident. It's hard to feel confident if you feel unhappy.

How to gain confidence to speak a foreign language? If you are asking yourself this question, you are in the right place! I'm going to show you three tips on how to work on your confidence, stop being shy and become a fluent speaker. Here they are!This is the most important thing that you need to understand. There are no mistakes - there is only feedback. You can't learn anything without making mistakes. Making mistakes is an inherent part of learning new languages. Treat mistakes as your friends, because they are your friends - they will help you learn a new language!

Third, be on time. Arriving on time gives your date the impression that you are serious about meeting with him/her. Men, it is appropriate that you come earlier. Don't keep your date waiting. He/she may have other appointments after your date, and you don't want to waste his/her time by showing up late. If you are running a bit behind, it's a common courtesy to call your date to let them know that you will be a little bit late.

That's it - three tips on how to gain confidence to speak a foreign language. It's all a matter of how badly you want to speak a foreign language fluently. Learning languages isn't only about grammar or vocabulary, it's also about you and your communication skills. Work on your confidence every day and I'm pretty sure that you will quickly overcome your fear. Good luck!




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