The Benefits Of Consulting A Couples Counselor In Bethesda

By Laura Cooper


Intimate relationships are complex and there are numerous reasons why one person choose to commit himself or herself to a specific partner. To choose a partner that is to become a lifelong companion is a very important decision that requires a great deal of circumspect. Nobody should ever rush into an intimate relationship. However, those already in a relationship that experiences problems should consider seeing a couples counselor in Bethesda before making rash decisions.

Society have changed in many ways and the roles of the sexes in a relationship has certainly changed greatly. Women no longer fulfil the traditional role of mother, cook and housemaid. They work and they have rewarding careers of their own. Men are expected to be equal partners in all things. Confusion regarding the role of each partner is all too often the main reasons for problems in a relationship.

In days gone by two people in a relationship would not dare to live together, but the rules have changed and society is much more tolerant. Unfortunately, many people commit to a shared domestic arrangement before they are truly ready for a serious commitment. These relationships often fall apart and because there is no legal bond between the parties separation is easily achieved and there are no legal repercussions.

It is one thing to leave a partner but it is quite another thing to end a relationship that has produced children. In such cases it is vital to put the futures and well being of the children at the top of the priority list. In order to make sensible and realistic decisions in this regard it is highly advisable that both partners see a counsellor, who will guide them through both the legal and emotional minefields.

Many people that have been in a long term relationship opt for counselling because they have invested so much energy, emotion and time. They feel that everything possible should be done to preserve the status quo. Long term couples are also often wary of separating because they have accumulated joint assets, bank accounts and even property and prefer to rather try and rescue the relationship.

Relationships often break down because of a number of smaller issues rather than one or two serious ones. A counsellor can help them to look at their relationship objectively, to identify the issues that caused unhappiness and to devise plans to resolve those issues. It is important to understand, however, that the counsellor is not a miracle worker and that there are seldom quick results during therapy.

Most therapists agree that it is definitely not always worthwhile to continue a relationship. Some relationships are dangerous with one of the partners subjected to violence, emotional abuse, fear and neglect. Anyone caught up in such a relationship should do whatever is necessary to escape. Statistics clearly show that murder, rape, physical assault and harassment cases all too often committed by one of the partners in a relationship.

Committing to an intimate relationship is a serious step. It would be wise to think very carefully before going this route. It may even be best for both prospective partners to agree to see a counsellor before making a commitment.




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