While conflict is a normal, it can cause great harm if it is frequent and mismanaged. If you argue all the time, argument becomes a habit and that leads to addiction and understanding how to mitigate and resolve personal conflict in your life from addiction is the only way out. Below are few ideas that can help you manage your conflict effectively.
Diagnose yourself to understand your trouble. Find out what exactly always makes you to start arguing with people or someone that you love even when it is not necessary. It could be because they did something bad in the past, you do not love them anymore, you feel bad when they are away or simply because you do not love their presence at all.
Now think about how it feels to argue with someone, especially if that person means the world to you or is someone closer to you. Think about how much you are hurting them and how much it is hurting you too when both of you are involved in a chronic argument. If you analyze the benefits of the arguing, you will find that there is no benefit.
Find out what always lead to conflicts arising between you and the people that are next to you. It is not fair to ague because you feel like it or simply because you find nothing positive to say about the other person. Once you know what the triggers are, you will be able to identify the right remedy for the situation at hand.
The best way to find out what exactly is going on is to listen to one another. When people sit together and talk, they always find it easy to open up to the each other, making it easy to find solutions to the problem at hand. Understand that conflicts are not just problems. They are life destructors, so you need to listen to each other out clearly, before you conclude who is on the wrong.
Now that you already know the source of the problem and frequent triggers of the arguments are, decide that you are going to approach issues in a different way this time. You need to make a decision that you are ready to handle tough situations in a different way. This means that if anything wrong happens in future, you will be read to solve the problem and not argue over it.
Forgive the past and let go. Most people always get back to the conflict and begin arguing repeatedly because they did not forgive the past. You cannot say you have solved conflicts successfully if you are still holding on to the past and not willing to let go. Letting go may seem difficult, but holding to the past is pointless and as well as useless.
So now that you have learned how to stay free from a conflict addict, talk to your partner on the idea of building a positive life. You can suggest starting a new friendship or relationship or something to get you on the right track. It could be anything as long as it makes you become a better person.
Diagnose yourself to understand your trouble. Find out what exactly always makes you to start arguing with people or someone that you love even when it is not necessary. It could be because they did something bad in the past, you do not love them anymore, you feel bad when they are away or simply because you do not love their presence at all.
Now think about how it feels to argue with someone, especially if that person means the world to you or is someone closer to you. Think about how much you are hurting them and how much it is hurting you too when both of you are involved in a chronic argument. If you analyze the benefits of the arguing, you will find that there is no benefit.
Find out what always lead to conflicts arising between you and the people that are next to you. It is not fair to ague because you feel like it or simply because you find nothing positive to say about the other person. Once you know what the triggers are, you will be able to identify the right remedy for the situation at hand.
The best way to find out what exactly is going on is to listen to one another. When people sit together and talk, they always find it easy to open up to the each other, making it easy to find solutions to the problem at hand. Understand that conflicts are not just problems. They are life destructors, so you need to listen to each other out clearly, before you conclude who is on the wrong.
Now that you already know the source of the problem and frequent triggers of the arguments are, decide that you are going to approach issues in a different way this time. You need to make a decision that you are ready to handle tough situations in a different way. This means that if anything wrong happens in future, you will be read to solve the problem and not argue over it.
Forgive the past and let go. Most people always get back to the conflict and begin arguing repeatedly because they did not forgive the past. You cannot say you have solved conflicts successfully if you are still holding on to the past and not willing to let go. Letting go may seem difficult, but holding to the past is pointless and as well as useless.
So now that you have learned how to stay free from a conflict addict, talk to your partner on the idea of building a positive life. You can suggest starting a new friendship or relationship or something to get you on the right track. It could be anything as long as it makes you become a better person.
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